We’ve been toying with the idea of moving for a while. The majority of our friends and a large portion of our family live approximately an hour away. We discuss selling up and moving, rule it out, put it in the back of our minds until the next time it comes up.
Last weekend we found out another pair of friends is moving to that area too, then a party for another friends child that we don’t get to see nearly often enough and selling up is back in front of our minds. Thommo grew up in that area, I was born in the area but moved away when I was a child. It’s easy to get carried away by the ponderings of what might be, but I wonder how much is potential reality and how much is romanticizing.
It’s hard being an hour away from friends AND having a shift working husband. Thommo works most weekends so all catch ups are planned well in advance. There’s no room for impromptu visits, bbqs etc. Here we live close to my mum and step dad, my sister and my BFF.
“There” is the rest of our friends, people Thommo went to school with, his BFF, my other BFF, a wonderful community of like minded women (who have fortnightly craft nights that I have been pouting about missing since they started), my maternal grandparents, Thommo’s parents, brother and sister in law.
In my mind, there’d be impromptu bbq’s, people dropping by, play dates, regular dinners with my grandparents, Thomlets growing up with a bevy of friends who have awesome parents ( who are, coincidentally, our friends! Lucky huh?). It would be easy for Thommo to visit friends even on work nights. The ability to drop in for a cuppa with friends and have them do the same. The ability to go to craft night!! It feels like it would give Thommo and I the space and ability to be just “Thommo” and “Megs” as seperate entities and not just as “Thommo, Megs and the Thomlets”.
But is that a realistic vision or is it just romanticizing? Of course there would be downsides, being further away from my mum, step dad, sister (and her family including my adorable niece and nephew), further from my BFF. Plus the price gap between where we are now and where we want to be would mean stepping off the property ladder for a bit. But if I’m not overly romanticizing, we’d be surrounded by community and that is oh so appealing.